So I don’t know about you but I’ve had to sit and listen to adults(older adults) giving their advice about early-adulthood with a stern but captivating look on their faces as if they’re reliving the moment, all the things they wish they did; they would have been living a better life, so they said.
You’re so young and vibrant, it’s the time to make the most of your life, draw a 10-year scheduled plan for your life, set goals to achieve those plans without skipping a step. Don’t be too into relationships, or partying, or having fun, just focus on studying and attaining a college degree. Start working, earn a living, get MARRIED, then start a family, it’s the right pattern to follow.
Oh geez! I don’t enjoy patterns, I explore to create what works for me. I’m bored, anything new?
Your life is as beautiful as you make it, no pressure!Praize Achom
Over time, I’ve learned to do what I want no matter how hard it is. The reason people advise you is to get the result they feel is best for you, so they leave you with choices, but YOU MAKE THE DECISIONS. In the end, you’ll realize that you had the power to make decisions regardless of the choices you were presented with.
In my article, YOU ARE ENOUGH, I explained in detail how comparison and perfectionism affect a person. Sadly, the older adults count it as candid advice to compare your life to others and this can be a double-edged sword. Sometimes, you put so much pressure on doing things right and making the most of your life that you get overwhelmed.
The internet is full of articles on how to lead a perfect life, “omoo!” There is great stuff out there from the wiser(those above twenties), I’ve read posts upon posts, nothing different.
My decision to do something different however leaves me feeling like a boss and nothing can stop me sometimes, and other times I’m walking around in circles, worried, and utterly overwhelmed for no good reason.
Give yourself a break!
You don’t have it all sorted, I don’t too. It’s okay to not know. It’s okay to not have an answer. It’s okay to go with the flow and roll with the punches. It’s okay to not have your life FIGURED OUT.
Take one step at a time, enjoy the process. Quit trying to live someone’s life; throw the idea you have about life in your head away, embrace the messiness of life, understand it, you’ll do great as long as you’re intentional about giving your best towards the person you want to become.
And next time you’re stressin’, pour yourself some big girl juice and know you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.Jen Saviano