Tell me, who hasn’t been retarded or completely stopped by sudden anger out of proportion to whatever prompted it, or felt distressed/sad for seemingly no reason? One truth about EMOTIONS is that they are mystifying. In other words, confusing.
Adding to this confusion, we have belief systems built around emotions; good(positive) emotions, and bad(negative) emotions. Now, the truth is that each emotion serves a specific purpose. It only becomes a problem because of our belief system with regards to emotions. That’s why we have a lot of people avoiding what we term negative emotions, thereby losing sight of the functions they serve.
Emotions serve different functions; motivate actions, communicates to others, and indicate needs. Below is a picture table of some emotions and their functions.
LOVE AND EMOTION
Emotion is a conscious mental reaction(i.e anger or fear) subjectively experienced as a strong feeling usually directed towards a specific object and typically accompanied by physiological and behavioral changes in the body.
Do you know how when people are really hungry they will be driven to eat the inedible? Grass and soil and the like? That also happens with love. If you want love badly enough, you will start gobbling harmful substitutes like attention and possessions.Alissa Nutting, Made To Love
In the last post, I made it known that love isn’t just an emotion or feeling. Love involves more of the logical part of the brain. However, the distinction between emotions and love is that emotions just continue to be feelings that may be relied upon, but wholly for the sensations of the body. Love rather goes a whole lot deeper in the logical and intellectual parts of the mind.
Love is what drives emotions. Love is not an emotion; it doesn’t behave the way emotions do. Real love is in a category of its own. Those things we’ve learned to equate with love—the longing, the physical attraction, the shared hobbies, the desire, the yearning, the lust, the projections, the addictive cycles, the passions, those things move and change and fluctuate in the way emotions do, but they are not love, because love is utterly stable and utterly unaffected by any emotion.
Emotions are a response to Love; I can be furious with people I love, frightened of them, and utterly disappointed in them, but the love never wavers. As intertwined as the two are, love for me lives in a realm far deeper than the emotions, and in that deep and rich place.
One of our readers asked a question last week; If love is such a beautiful thing, why do humans find it hard to love? The answer to this is that individuals haven’t found the know-how. Until you understand love, you’ll find it difficult to give out love. It’s no news that you can’t possibly give what you lack. Commitment, strength, right priorities, sacrifice, time, speaking the love languages, comes with a clear knowledge of true love.
In the next post, we’ll be looking at another aspect of love. Till then, make researches, ask questions, and practice what you’ve learned.