Usually, Love is confusing because the word is used in so many different ways. Every day, we hear people at parks, on the road, in our offices, and so many other places, using the word; “I love the weather. I love your dress. I love my mother. I love Nigeria.” When you see couples on a romantic day, they’ll say, “I love you”, to each other. Most times, I wonder if people really understand/know what LOVE really is.
It is one of the beautiful compensations of life, that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself”Ralph Waldo Emerson
One of my loved quotes is that above. Truth is that the key to finding satisfaction and joy in loving others is to focus on giving love, not on receiving it. Receiving love is an after-effect of loving others, but the joy comes first from having a loving attitude, no matter the outcome.
Long ago, I read a book by Gary Chapman, “The Five Love Languages”. The light I received from that book reoriented my thinking. I was able to unlearn the ideologies I had about love in my mind and writing this piece brought a reminder; One of the greatest gifts is PEOPLE. God orchestrated our lives beautifully. It is such that we meet certain people who’ll help build us during seasons, please, do not trivialize the presence of these individuals and their sacrifices.
Moving on, Gary carefully explained five primary ways we give and receive love in The Five Love Languages;
- Words of affirmation
- Quality time
- Acts of service
- Physical touch
Love is not an emotion that comes over us. It is something within our capabilities, originating in our attitudes and peak in our actions. If we think of love as a feeling, whenever we can’t work up that feeling or devoid of that feeling, we will be disheartened. When we realize love is primarily an action, we are ready to use the tool we have to love better.
In the prospective series, we’ll be treating several aspects of love, their importance, and how to effectively apply them. Till then, make it a duty to bring your mind into the understanding that you have all the tools you need to love.
Let me know your thoughts and questions regarding love in the comment section below, I’d be glad to answer them in my next post.